eventualities

when someone says “should be” especially “you should be,” they are ultimately referring to an ideal or a recognized convention(to whatever degree); all are abstracts. language is a tool, however, i believe there are many people the world-over that do not fully grasp the concept. they are perhaps aware of the idea of language as a tool, they may even remember it being told to them in that exact way. but the main language(s) that a person uses to communicate are a constant and thus susceptible to being taken for granted. the same could be said for the ability to breath or see, move limb, or even the state of occupation of the being we each articulate and live through. all easily forgotten because of their constant presence.
we are enabled. and in the madness of possibility we recognize the similarities, the familiarities, the relative constants, and other forms that give us the ability to connect with one another and to share-and-understand what we have become through our experiences. we connect with each other much in the same way that all matter tends to connect- and we thrive by that.

thus, how are humans-entire to react? to be? what is our “true” nature and what is false? ultimately i cannot believe in true or false, there is only “is.” “is” being the result of what we all are and continue to be. for convention and human cultures this does not admonish or provide excuse to behaviour or actions taken, it is an observation that seems to attempt to escape the confines of human fussery and controls; that is, it is my mind feeling something that is outside of what it may understand.

it is funny (makes me laugh) because i am trying to understand my own differences from others; at least in what others allow to be shared with others. i have this feeling that there is much that is hidden from general-show other than the obvious things we each keep private. for example, one of the most common things is for people to clean-house when company comes over. not just tiding up, but actual overhauls of their normal arrangement of things. once company is gone, there is the reinstatement of the old setup. what!?
we all remain separate because we each generally have a sense that only we act or behave or feel the way we do. and this is mainly promoted by the fact that we have little opportunity to observe what each other does.

the majority dominates influence over the rule. the phrase “one person can change the world” is relatively false. to better capture what i believe to be the root feeling behind this phrase, the phrase should read “one person can influence the world.” because the word “change” seems to be taken, by the average person, as meaning “substantial control” (or what i call direct influence). and i have not observed where an individual of anything has that attribute/ability. an individual only has a small percentage of influence over their actions/life. an individual entity can be afforded a position of heightened influence by the contribution of the other influences of existence thus giving the individual more apparent effect in their realized performance(actions).
reality is what we make it. in culture, or in “the group” reality is what we all agree on and live by.